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I’ve made the cruise to Alaska eight or nine times—I have lost count. I just returned from what I believe will be the last one. It was wonderful, raining in every Alaska port, which I love. Rain followed Love and me on every vacation beginning with our trip to Sunnyvale, where my sister Lili had made all the arrangements for our wedding, our honeymoon along the Pacific Coast, and every one of dozens of journeys spanning our forty years together. It happens even after his death, most notably in the torrential rains that accompanied us to the Armstrong redwoods to scatter his ashes as waters roared below.
I felt Love’s presence every time I felt drops of rain on my face, whether or deck, shivering as I watched the majesty of the Hubbard Glacier, on a whale watching expedition or exploring the towns. My favorite stop was Ketchikan, where I took a solitary walk to my favorite places, Creek Street, the salmon ladder, the library and the museum. The creek was roaring impressively after nine days of continuous rain. I was wearing tall rain boots, and carrying Al’s umbrella, as I merrily splashed through puddles. I even found a local candy store, where I stocked up on home-made goodies.
I enjoyed the cruise, but knew in my heart that it was time to say goodbye to Alaska. The trip was bittersweet, filled with memories. It’s time for new adventures.
I’ve become a butterfly person, like the people who collect
frogs, or bunnies or action figures. My house is now filled with
them, and it had apparently provided the theme friends and
family whenever they’re searching for gifts for me. The part I
love best, is that they tell me that when they see a butterfly,
they think of Al and me. What a lovely association.
Of course, the butterflies also appear to be attracted to me!
They’ve landed on my hat, my head, my hand. Now, I have
garden Monarchs, laying eggs in my butterfly bushes, even in
winter, growing increasingly bold in leaving their chrysalises in
plain sight, even letting go of their perch from time to time,
secure in the knowledge they will be cared for—I have the art of rescuing a chrysalis
down to a science.
Once in a while, a Monarch will visit and seem perfectly comfortable with my proximity,
and with posing for pictures. I can’t help but wonder if these are Monarch’s that
emerged in plain sight, or their descendants. I wonder if the offspring are predisposed
*This idea found its way into a poem, Domesticated Monarchs, in Whimsical Warrior,
my second book of poetry.
My garden is filled with memories, from deciding with Al how it should look–natural and trouble-free–to the plants and trees themselves. It’s difficult to believe that was thirty years ago.
I look up to see the tree that I was drawn to after Al’s death, now known as Love’s tree. I would sway with the dancing leaves, feeling his presence, peaceful and accepting. The first autumn the year he died was particularly poignant, seeing the leaves fall, leaving the branches bare, the parallels inescapable to my aching spirit.
The Jacaranda tree was my mother’s favorite. When she could still visit, she would sit at the kitchen window, looking at it for hours. When she could no longer visit, I took videos of her tree, and we would look at them together at the Seacrest Village, the loving facility (not a contradiction) where she spent her last days. We spent a lot of afternoon scrolling through my pictures.
The Birds of Paradise are from the home in West Los Angeles where I lived as a child. They were my father’s favorite. The plant has traveled with me everywhere I’ve lived.
I still sway with dancing leaves. A lot of poems have been born in that garden. It’s my favorite place to just be still and notice. And now, we have the caterpillars, the chrysalises, and beautiful butterflies.
My garden runneth over with beauty and memories.
A number of you are curious about my process in writing a poem. I usually answer that I have no idea. The poems seem to arrive whole. I know they’re created from bits and pieces of my life, what I notice, how I feel, but in most cases that’s about as far as it goes. However, I’m increasingly aware when the thought—the knowledge-- flashes that the moment will be in a poem.
I was sitting around a table with friends and noticed one had a “big gulp” cup from a fast food restaurant with the words: “eat like you mean it” imprinted on the side. “Hmmm,” said my muse. An hour later, I was drying my hands on an automatic blower with the words “Feel the power” printed on top. “Hmmm,” she said a second time. I had no idea how or when, but knew these phrases would find their way into my poetry. And they did.
When I got home that day, I was thinking about the memorial service I would be attending the next day for Mimi, a woman in my bereavement group we had all come to love and admire. She was in her nineties, and was a model for aging with energy and style. Impeccably dressed, she would share at our group she had driven to Las Vegas the previous weekend for a special occasion. She met her husband on a boat to Catalina, where she was a singer entertaining the passengers. They were married over 60 years. The thought occurred that I would like to write a poem for Mimi. I sat at the computer, and this is what I wrote:
Grieve like you mean it,
feel like you mean it,
cry like you mean it,
dance like you mean it,
laugh like you mean it,
rejoice like you mean it.
Feel the power
living like you mean it.
Thank you, Muse. Mimi, we will miss you.